Are You Uncomfortable With Success?

Many people are uncomfortable with the prospect of success. It’s seems hard to believe but it’s true. Who wouldn’t want to be more successful? Failure might not be ideal, but it can be more comfortable than the possibility of something more. Eliminating your fear of success could be all you need to do to take your life to the next level.

You may not even be aware that the thought of success makes you uncomfortable.

Consider these facts and strategies about success to become more comfortable with choosing success as a way of life:

The fear of success can manifest itself in different ways. Procrastination, self-sabotage, and an inability to concentrate on important tasks are signs of discomfort with success. Do you suddenly feel tired when performing a task that could take your career to the next level? These are signs that your subconscious is derailing your efforts.

  • Notice signs of self-sabotage in your work and relationships. Ask yourself why you engage in those behaviors. Look at your past objectively. You’ve been sabotaging yourself for years.

Attack your negative beliefs. Make a list of your negative beliefs regarding success. Question them.

  •  How do you know this belief is true?
  • Where did this belief originate?
  • Could you be wrong?
  • What are a few counter examples to this belief?
  • What is this belief costing you?

Success is more complex than failure. It’s can seem easier to deal with your life as it is than to become successful. The more successful you become, the more visible you become. You’re more exposed to criticism. You have more responsibility. You may have to live with more pressure.

  • Remind yourself that you’ll have access to more resources if you’re successful. An excess of resources results in more comfort. When you have plenty of money and influence, life becomes easier.

You might worry about having to become a different person. Success requires change, but you can still be the same person. Someone that wants to lose weight will have to change their eating and exercise habits, but they are fundamentally the same person. There are changes to be made, but you’ll become an enhanced version of yourself.

Have a vision of success that appeals to you. Are you afraid that massive success will result in a loss of free time? Build a vision of success that allows you to work on the beach for a few hours each day with your laptop. Success won’t happen if your vision of success is unappealing. What is your ideal version of success?

List the advantages of success. Make a personal list that excites you. Consider all the advantages that success can bring: influence, money, social status, comfort, contribution, and so on. Use logic to motivate yourself.

Enjoy the process. Success can seem like a lot of work. If you view the work as misery, no success will be attractive enough to motivate you. Find a way to enjoy the process of becoming successful. You might choose to value what you’ll learn or the people you meet along the way. Sometimes, it’s just the adventure in finding the right path.
It feels counterintuitive that anyone would fear success. However, this is one of the primary reasons everyone isn’t more successful. Avoid underestimating how much your negative impressions of success can sabotage your future.

Build a vision of success that motivates you to be successful. Eliminate the negative. Question your current beliefs. And enjoy the success you deserve.

4 Ways to Rapidly Boost Your Career

The economy still has room for improvement, and jobs are still hard to find. That doesn’t mean you can’t take a few extra steps to give your career a significant boost. It’s important to always be working on your career. No one else will do it for you!

Careers are like sandcastles. If you’re not putting time and energy into them, they tend to decay and fall apart.

Consider taking these 4 steps to boost your career:

  1. Explore freelancing. Over 42 million people in the US work for themselves. Technology has changed the landscape of the traditional workplace. High-speed internet, webcams, and conferencing platforms have made it a reality to work independently from home.
  • The only drawbacks are questionable job security and the lack of opportunity for employer-paid health insurance and retirement benefits.

However, with good experience and strong skills, you can boost your earnings significantly. One of your clients may also become your full-time employer someday.

  1. Learn how to network. Whether you work independently or not, networking is still a critical skill to have in your toolbox. Take the time to network across all the available platforms, including social media. Forums related to your field can also be very useful.
  • Google+, Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, and others provide a worthwhile resource to facilitate making connections with others. This means it’s easier to find new clients or new employment.
  •  Many adults find social media annoying, but it’s here to stay. Learn how to take advantage of it.
  1. Choose a mentor. Find a mentor within your organization or career field. Choose a mentor who has been down a similar career path as you and is now where you aspire to be someday.
  •  Every work environment has its own set of unwritten rules that have some impact on who is successful and who isn’t.
  • A good mentor can assist with navigating your career, avoiding the traps, and ensuring you do well.
  • If you’re a freelancer, a mentor is just as valuable. There’s always someone willing to help. You just have to find them. Networking would be a great process to use when looking for a suitable mentor.
  1. Embrace the idea of continuous improvement. The most successful people practically make a religion out of improving themselves.
  • Some employees will take it upon themselves to get some additional training or education. But how many of them really look in the mirror and continuously better themselves? Not many.

If you spend a little time working on your skills each day, it really adds up over several months. Be proactive and determine what skills and knowledge will be most valuable to you in the future. Being just one step ahead makes you look like a genius.

  • Employees who show initiative really stand out. Consider how few individuals actually change. By boosting your skills and image, others will start to notice you in a big way. Competitors will notice, too.

While the economy is still struggling to grow at a healthy rate, there are still things you can do to boost your career and job prospects. Freelancing can be a good idea for certain individuals with marketable skills. Networking is always a valuable strategy. It really is all about who you know.

A mentor will keep you on a positive path and aid in your quest for continuous development of your skills. Be better tomorrow than you are today and everyone will notice. Put these tips into practice immediately, even if you’re already thrilled with your current career. It can always get better.

How to Use Social Media to Find Your Next Job

Social media is all the rage. Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, YouTube, and more seem to be everywhere. In social media like these, we get constant updates about the relevant and not-so-relevant aspects of everyone’s lives. Here, we’ll consider a practical application of social media: finding your next job.

Social media gives you great tools for sharing information electronically with a potentially very large audience.

Try these strategies to help you land a great job:

  1. Focus your attention on people instead of companies. For instance, if you’re interested in a particular company, look at blogs and on Facebook for people who work there. You’re likely to also see the other people they know. Maybe you share an acquaintance or two. You can submit resumes to them, ask for advice, and get more contacts.
  • You’ll want to be subtle; people are unlikely to be happy about being bombarded with job requests on their own time. By starting out with a few non-intrusive messages, you should be able to make in-roads toward your goal.

 

  1. Start your own blog. By putting out content that showcases your knowledge and expertise, people will begin to see you as an expert. Blogs are easy to start, and many websites will host yours for free. Other than the work involved, it’s free advertising for your skills.

 

  1. Use Twitter. It’s becoming common to hear stories of people getting laid off, sending out a few Tweets proclaiming their new unfortunate job status, and ultimately finding a new position as a result of their Tweets.
  • With Twitter, word spreads quickly.
  • Companies are beginning to use this tool as well, for this same reason. Recruiters use Twitter to announce positions and give updates.

 

  • Here’s a quick Twitter tutorial:

1)     Go to Twitter.com and fill out your profile completely, including a professional photo of yourself.
2)     Follow everyone you know. Also follow everyone who seems like they might be able to help you find a position.
3)     Tweet away.

 

  1. Take advantage of video. In addition to more usual social media tools, video is becoming increasingly relevant. Upload a video resume to YouTube and let the world know what you can do and what you’re looking for. Check out other video resumes to get a feel for how it’s done.
  • When creating a video, keep brevity in mind. Explain your background; describe what you’re looking for and why you’d be the best person for the job. Take your time and get it right – you can rerecord as often needed.

 

  1. Consider Paid Advertising on Social Media. Also, consider Google AdWords and Facebook advertising to put the word out that you’re in job-search mode. To do this, you’ll need to make a landing page with your resume. Adding a blog, video resume, and any publications you authored would be helpful as well.

 

Social media is here to stay, so you might as well use it for something constructive. Finding employment is never enjoyable, but utilizing social media can really make a difference.

Never before has the average person had so much capability to reach so many people. Craft your message and get it out there every way you can think of.

 

Transcending the Ego

The ego is a tricky thing. It drives us to do impressive things, but makes us miserable in the process. Many of the most successful people have the biggest egos, and most of them are also unhappy. This is because the ego is never satisfied. It always requires more to feel comfortable. Each success or accomplishment must be bigger than the last. There’s no peace.

Move beyond your ego to find true peace and happiness:

Avoid taking anything personally. Other people have bad days too. You sometimes misinterpret the intention of others. Your imagination is partially fueled by your ego.

  • Even if someone insults you directly, their words are nothing more than sound. The sound of a tree falling wouldn’t offend you. An insult is no different. Only your ego makes it so.

Avoid comparing yourself to others. Are you better than someone else if you own a bigger home or wear nicer clothes? Is someone better than you if they get the job you desire? Each person has a value that is immeasurable. Comparisons prove nothing.

Seek a healthy body, rather than society’s ideal. Your ideal body is the one that gives you the greatest level of health.

  • The best body shape for you is unlikely to be the most attractive possible body to others. Do you want to be healthy or impress others?

Recognize your separateness from your thoughts and emotions. You are not your thoughts or your emotions. You are the consciousness that witnesses these things. When you are able to see your separation from your thoughts, you can also see the separateness you have from the things that happen around you.

  • When you view the world in this manner, your ego can’t be touched.

Avoid reacting. Respond instead. The ego attempts to influence you to act quickly and without contemplation. The longer you wait to respond to your negative feelings, the more likely you are to avoid the ego.

Avoid criticizing others. When you offer criticism, you’re saying that there is a better way. Give up your need to be right and correct others. Ask yourself why you criticize. In the end, it’s only to make yourself feel better.

  • Even if you believe you’re trying to be helpful, you’re still trying to feel good about yourself. If you’re ego-free, you’ll lose the desire to criticize.

Question your motivations. Imagine you’re buying a new car. Ask yourself why. Do you really need a new car? Is your current car adequate? If you need a new car, ask yourself if you’re considering appropriate cars and for appropriate reasons.

• Are you considering what your friends, family, and neighbors will think about your choice?

• Are you buying a more expensive or larger car than you need?

• Always question your motivations. You’ll often find your ego is a driving force.

The ego can limit your success and happiness. Consider that your ego can stop you from trying if you’re afraid of failure. Your ego can make you unhappy if your neighbor has a boat and you don’t. Your ego has a million ways it can undermine your future and your present. It can even make your past look worse than it was.

Our society worships things that often come more easily to those with insatiable egos. However, it’s a trap. Learn how to move past your ego and you’ll find life to be more satisfying.

8 Strategies for Successfully Dealing With Rejection

Rejection can sting, but it doesn’t have to derail your efforts or your future. Rejection is a part of life that everyone must face. While rejection isn’t enjoyable, it’s rarely fatal. Luckily, there are strategies you can use to help you use rejection as a stepping-stone to success.

Try these tips to deal with rejection quickly and effectively, so you can move on:

1. Take a short break. Whether a potential romantic partner, your boss, or a Hollywood director rejected you, take a short period of time to grieve and pull yourself together. Avoid taking too long to reengage with your life, though. Take the time you need, but get back out there as quickly as possible.

2. Realize that many other opportunities exist. How many potential romantic partners exist in the world? Millions. You’ll have other ideas to pitch to your company. A single rejection only means that you’re participating in the world. The only people that don’t get rejected are at home on the couch.

• There are plenty of opportunities in your future. Many of them are far better than your recent miss.

3. Learn from the rejection. Was there something that you could have done better? Take the opportunity to really look at the rejection and learn from it. If you can learn one small thing from each negative experience in your life, you’ll have far fewer of them.

• If appropriate, ask what you can do to improve. A job interviewer might be very willing to give you a few pointers that you can apply in the future. Listen closely to the answers you receive.

• Some quests have a low success rate. For example, you can offer home sellers fifty cents on the dollar to buy their house and 99% will reject your offer. Accept that a certain amount of rejection is part of any endeavor.

4. Avoid automatically assuming that the reason for the rejection is related to you. For instance, there are hundreds of reasons why a woman might refuse to go out with you that have nothing to do with you personally:

• She’s already involved with someone else.
• She’s interested in members of the opposite sex.
• She just got out of a long-term relationship.
• She’s moving soon.
• Her mother is ill and she’s caring for her.

5. Remember that each rejection is bringing you closer to success. How can you fail if you avoid quitting? Keep at it and you’ll eventually find the success you’re seeking. Sales people are trained to believe that every “no” is another step closer to a “yes.”

6. Remember that everyone deals with rejection. The most successful people get rejected the most. They just do a better job of forging ahead than those with average results.

7. Monitor your self-talk. Keep your thoughts positive and upbeat. A poor mood and expectations give poor results. Say good things to yourself and good things will happen.

8. Treat yourself well. A failure isn’t an excuse to mistreat yourself. Overeating, consumption of alcohol, or excessive spending isn’t the answer. Celebrate the fact that you made an effort. Maybe your rejection even deserves a small reward.

Rejection is just an undesired outcome. It’s no different than missing the strike zone during a baseball game. You wouldn’t walk off the mound after one errant pitch. You’d keep throwing the ball. Avoid allowing rejection to have a negative impact on your mood or behavior. Learn, grow, and try again.